DJ began to follow Bryan’s logic and ended up becoming pro-life. At the beginning of this second conversation, DJ had made it clear he wanted abortion as an option if he “messed up.” After our conversation, it was encouraging to hear him and Bryan reflecting on things so differently than just a few minutes before:
Bryan: You know, man, I’m so glad I stopped here today and talked to Grace. I’m so glad that I know the truth about abortion now.
DJ: Yeah. Honestly, I am too. I kind of wish I didn’t...but at the same time, I’d so much rather know than not know.”
After talking with DJ, Bryan didn’t stop. Soon, he began pulling other students, friends, and even strangers into conversation with himself, me, and other JFA staff members. He probably encouraged at least ten people to stop, saying:
Bryan: This girl...she changed my mind in like forty-five minutes, and I’ve been out here for two hours now!
Because he was so passionate and vocal, Bryan ended up drawing even more people than he had directly invited to talk. His zeal was contagious, and his passion prompted other students to listen. He began changing their minds.
Bryan was doing an incredible job, especially considering his only training had been one conversation with me. Still, he was easily becoming frustrated when people couldn’t seem to track with what he was saying. I saw a need for Bryan to receive more formal dialogue training. Later, I was happy to see Jon Wagner step into a conversation Bryan was having with another student, this time named PJ. Jon suggested slowing the pace down and provided a good model of finding common ground, listening to understand, and asking thoughtful questions. Bryan exclaimed at one point, “Oh man! I like how you said that!”
It left me speechless to see Bryan’s transformation from pro-choice to completely pro-life, even to the point of immediately jumping into our outreach. At times, it made me uncomfortable to see him nearly shouting in disbelief. Bryan’s response was shock, horror, and a burning zeal to bring awareness as a means of saving as many lives as possible. This stood out in stark contrast to the apathy I have been used to seeing. But perhaps, in that sense, we should all be a bit more like Bryan. After all, if there were thousands of already-born people being systematically killed every day right under our noses, then wouldn’t we respond just as he did? Bryan’s response was a vivid reminder to me of the horror of abortion and the urgent nature of creating more conversations about this injustice.
Note: Joanna Bai contributed to this report.