Mary and Liz (Instagram Link)
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Still Relevant in 2020: “Is there a more important question than the voting question?”
Four years ago I wrote and recorded a message to JFA’s supporters entitled, “Is there a more important question than the voting question?” This letter is just as relevant now as it was in 2016. Please read or listen to it, and share it. - Steve Wagner, Executive Director
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“I am not an articulate person and definitely avoid anxiety-producing situations of talking to someone who might disagree with me. But because of the course and the website I now have a resource...to help me to know what to say, and most importantly how to say it.”
“Having been in the pro-life movement since 1980, this training is nothing like I’ve ever experienced. At our local [pregnancy] center, we are making it essential for our Client Advocates (in addition to their regular training).”
Aubree Changes Her Mind
Above, I talk with “Aubree” at UT Dallas in early March, before COVID-19 cancellations.
On February 7th, I began serving as a Spring 2020 Intern with Justice For All. Before COVID-19 forced us to cancel the events JFA had planned for later in the spring, I was able to travel to Texas three times for outreach events at the University of North Texas, Trinity University, University of Texas at San Antonio, and University of Texas at Dallas.
One of the most memorable interactions I had this spring was at UT Dallas. A young woman I’ll call “Aubree” came up to our poll table that asked, “Should Abortion Remain Legal?” As she signed the Yes side, I approached her and asked her what she thought about abortion. Aubree proceeded to tell me she didn’t like abortion, but she thought it should be legal because making a law against abortion would cause more women to get hurt. She expressed the concern that even if we made abortion illegal, women would die in back-alley abortions, and it wouldn’t really prevent abortion at all. She went on to explain she also believes life begins at conception and that abortion kills an innocent human being.
There are many people like Aubree who claim to be pro-life, believe the unborn is human like you and me, and yet believe that abortion should be legal. The problem with this is multi-faceted. First, they are telling you abortion is killing an innocent human but that abortion should still be legal. Then they often support this with a second statement like the back-alley abortion claim.
Above, I am shown talking with a pro-choice student at Trinity University in February.
The challenge in this view is that to some extent there is truth to it. Having a law against abortion won’t stop all abortions. Laws do not prevent all people from engaging in a particular action, but that does not mean we should not have legislation against a particular act if it is harming or killing another person.
I began to walk through her concerns with her, and we applied her reasoning for keeping abortion legal to other issues. Laws against child abuse and rape do not prevent all those crimes from occurring, but they do mitigate the behavior. In addition, laws reflect what our society values. If we did not have laws against child abuse and rape, that would reveal a disturbing culture that does not have concern for the wellbeing of vulnerable people victimized by these evil acts. In the same way, if abortion is killing an innocent human being (which it is), then we should have laws against it.
Another helpful way to process this is to imagine we were talking about women having the right to kill their newborns. Imagine that someone argues that infanticide should be legal and safe for women because if it were illegal, women would just get hurt in back alleys trying to kill their newborns. This helps to clarify the point and keep the discussion on one central question: What is the unborn?
Of course we don’t want women to die in “back-alley abortions,” and we should take measures to help women not desire to take that risk. But because abortion is killing an innocent human being, it should not remain legal.
Towards the end of my conversation with Aubree, we began discussing women’s rights, and I remarked how I thought it was sad that the idea of women’s rights is so interconnected with abortion. “Oftentimes, abortion kills another woman [at the embryonic or fetal stage]. Our ability to be free and equal does not come from our ability to kill other weaker, vulnerable, unborn women. If we really care about women, why do we not fight for all women in all stages of their existence? It seems odd to me that we only fight for a specific group of women, and we tell some of them that they have the right to kill another woman if she gets in their way.”
“When I made that connection it was like a light bulb went on in her mind. Before leaving, she asked “Can I change my answer?””
When I made that connection it was like a light bulb went on in her mind. Before leaving, she asked “Can I change my answer?” Walking back to the poll table, she signed the No side of our poll, and we cordially parted ways.
Many people think the same way Aubree thought before our conversation, and they just need someone to gently point out the flawed reasoning in their beliefs. When the truth is communicated in a loving manner, sometimes they are willing to change their views to fit the truth. This is encouraging to witness.
As Christians, learning how to communicate the truth to a watching world is crucial. We are told to “walk in wisdom towards outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” (Col. 4:5-6 ESV). May we all be willing and ready to communicate the truth to a lost world.
A Note to My Support Team
(Originally shared along with this story in April 2020)
Dear Friends,
Since traveling is no longer an option this spring, I have been working with the JFA team as we seek to reach people using other means. I have been helping JFA launch its Instagram account (@picturejusticeforall) while trying to get into conversations via direct message with people on that forum. I presented a portion of an online JFA interactive workshop this past week, and I’ll also be helping with online training events in the coming weeks (see www.jfaweb.org/calendar). In addition, please go to my JFA page to find links to articles I have published recently with Human Defense Initiative and Merely Human Ministries.
We continue to engage in compassionate dialogue with the purpose of glorifying God and communicating to people the value and dignity in every human life. Thank you for your friendship, support, and prayers. It is much easier to do this work knowing I have people like you who have my back.
In Christ,
Rebekah Dyer
God Uses Weakness
Do you ever feel totally unqualified to advocate on behalf of unborn children or to share the gospel? I know I do.
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Recently I have been reading Amazing Grace by Eric Metaxas, a biography of William Wilberforce. William Wilberforce was instrumental in bringing about the end to the slave trade in England. Many people know him for his powerful and compelling speeches and his tireless fight for abolition. What most don't know is that William Wilberforce suffered from ill health most of his life. He was often bedridden. His doctor told him that his body wasn't prepared to handle the life he had chosen.
William Wilberforce was also short and gaunt. His appearance didn’t lend itself to a political career.
Yet despite his constant illness and unimpressive appearance, William Wilberforce fought ceaselessly for the end of the slave trade and eventually won.
His life reminds me of I Corinthians 1:27-29 which says,
“But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence.”
We often look to ourselves—our skills, our talents, our resources—to decide whether we are qualified. In reality none of us are qualified to serve our great God, but he chooses to use us and to work through our weakness for his glory.
Don't allow your weaknesses, whatever they are, to keep you from serving our Lord. Rather embrace your weakness as a chance to depend upon his strength as you faithfully serve him.
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Common Ground Without Compromise
Here’s a note from Steve Wagner, author of Common Ground Without Compromise, reflecting on the book in 2018:
“It’s been ten years since Common Ground Without Compromise was published, and I’m excited to see so many pro-life people now talking about finding common ground as essential to advocating for unborn children. I intended the book as a letter to all sides of the abortion debate, suggesting that we could make more progress in discussing abortion if we consciously made an effort to agree whenever possible. I look at the landscape now, with many cultural observers saying ‘we are more polarized than ever,’ and I think we need to continue to make finding common ground a habit — just as much as we need to be ready to support our beliefs with good reasons. Finding common ground, though, has the power to cause people who disagree with us to want to listen to those reasons we’re eager to share, even as it has the power to help us to want to listen to the many true things they are saying.”
Resources for Healing After Abortion
RESOURCES
If you or someone you know is considering abortion or has had an abortion in the past, here are resources that may help. Or, call the JFA office (316-683-6426) and ask to speak with one of our trainers who can help you find resources in your area.
Resources for Healing After Abortion
Healing Retreats:
Other Resources for Reflecting and Processing
Resources for Those Considering Abortion
TESTIMONIES OF HEALING AFTER ABORTION
JFA Staff and Volunteers share stories of conversations with men and women who have had experiences with abortion.
"Jamie" - After Jamie looked at an abortion photo and told CK Wisner that the photo "condemns [me] to hell," she found hope and healing through her conversation with CK. In this letter, CK shared many word-for-word excerpts from the conversation that took place in fall 2015.
Christina - Read this story to see why Christina, with three abortions in her past, told staff member Tammy Cook just two days after seeing abortion images on the Justice For All Exhibit, “Thank you so much, Tammy. I feel like you’ve given me my life back."
JFA Volunteers with abortion in their pasts answer the question, "What did your experience with JFA mean to you?"
Angela: "The Power of One" (Regular JFA Volunteer, writing in 2013)
Anne (Regular JFA Volunteer, writing in 2013)
Judy (Regular JFA Volunteer since 2011)
Lori (Regular JFA Volunteer since 2011; JFA Mentor since 2012)
Brenda (Regular JFA Volunteer since 2011)
"Dear Rilegh" - A forlorn young father left this letter and rose on the JFA Poll Table at Colorado State University in 2004.
TESTIMONIES OF THE EFFECTS OF ABORTION
"Dear Rilegh" - A Father wrote this letter to his unborn daughter and left it at the JFA Poll Table in 2004.
"I wish I would have never had the choice" - A response left at the JFA Poll Table which asked, "Should Abortion Remain Legal?"
"I still hurt..." - Response card sent to JFA in 2002
Please Note: This blog post is a copy of the information found on our Healing After Abortion webpage. For updates to this content, click below.
"I'll never know you. I never got a chance..."
The letter and rose, shown below as a part of JFA's Stop and Think Exhibit, were originally found on a JFA Poll Table at Colorado State University in 2004. This panel was first displayed at Colorado State University in 2016 in approximately the same location where the note was originally left.
Photo by Katherine Clark
The letter reads:
“Dear Rilegh,
I will never know you
I never got a chance
But I love you so much
She was never going to tell me about you
She was going to pretend you never existed
When she told me
I was truly speechless
Iv never cryed myself to sleep before
But for the past 2 weeks
It’s the only way I’m able to sleep
Theres this void in my life now
a bottomless hurt
that I’ll never know you
you, my first child
I’ll never see you grow
I can’t bring you back
I don’t even know where you are
So I gave you a home
You’ll be with me forever
I love you so much
Your Father
Rest in Peace
”
Many women and men (such as the writer of this letter) deal with grief following an experience with abortion. No matter where you currently stand on the moral question of abortion, consider these questions for a few moments:
How do you feel when you read this letter? Can you empathize with the writer's experience?
Do you know anyone who has had an experience with abortion? Have you ever asked if he/she would like to talk about it?
How do you think that the current US laws and social norms related to abortion affect people struggling with grief after abortion?
Do you believe that a father's wishes should have more weight than they currently do in an abortion decision? Why or why not?
The writer intended this letter for his child, but states that the mother "was going to pretend [the child] never existed." Do you believe this father really had a child? Why or why not?
When in development does the unborn deserve legal protection?
Share your thoughts on any of these questions in the comments section below, at our @7conversations Twitter page, or at JFA’s Instagram page in the comments section of the related post
(See also JFA's "Healing after Abortion" page for more resources for helping friends with abortion in their past.)
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Loving Pro-Choice People
Recently, I was scrolling through the comments on a pro-life Instagram post, and one comment caught my eye:
Commenter: Yes. Preach. Don’t let immoral, irresponsible, angry pro-choicers tell you otherwise. All they can do is get triggered and attack you.
Me: I have met pro-life people who are all those things and pro-choice people who are none of them. It doesn’t help this important discussion to stereotype either group. Let’s reach out in love to those who disagree rather than making assumptions about them.
Commenter: Never met one tolerant pro-choicer on Instagram. NEVER. Just go to pro-life pages and see pro-choicers’ comments.
Rebecca Hotovy (left, sitting) talks to a KU student at JFA’s University of Kansas outreach in March 2018.
This commenter illustrates a mindset we can all fall into from time to time. It’s the “us versus them” mindset, the mindset that all pro-choice people act that way and believe those things. This mindset destroys our ability to have an openhearted dialogue with pro-choice people.
Are all pro-choice people angry? Are all pro-choice people immoral? Are all pro-choice people irresponsible?
No.
Every pro-choice person is an individual with a unique story. Many people are pro-choice out of a deep sense of compassion for women. Others are pro-choice because they have been hurt. Still others are simply misinformed. Lumping all of these individuals together and assuming that they are all angry, immoral, and irresponsible only destroys our ability to reach out to them.
We get angry with the pro-choice movement for the dehumanization of unborn children. But often we are guilty of the same dehumanization directed not at unborn children but at pro-choice people. We may not use derogatory terms such as “parasite” to refer to the unborn, but we use derogatory terms to refer to pro-choice people.
“We get angry with the pro-choice movement for the dehumanization of unborn children. But often we are guilty of the same dehumanization directed not at unborn children but at pro-choice people.”
Former JFA staff member Cheryl Kaye Davis (right) talks to a UCLA student at a JFA outreach event in May 2016.
If we ever hope to see a change, if we ever hope to bring an end to abortion, we are going to have to reach out to pro-choice people, and that starts with seeing them as real, valuable, individual human beings.
That is why at Justice For All we so often talk about the Three Essential Skills. We believe that by listening to understand, asking questions with an open heart, and finding common ground when possible, we can have open, friendly dialogue with pro-choice people. It is this kind of dialogue that has the potential to change hearts and save lives. This is the kind of dialogue we have had on college campuses all over the country and are now having on Instagram, Facebook, and other social media platforms. (We’re still hoping we can return to college campuses this fall to engage students in dialogue in person. Please pray with me for this!)
I pray that you will join us in being an advocate of the gospel and of the value of every human life.
How Christian Kids Become Pro-Choice
This Free Speech Board comment, seen at a JFA university outreach event, represents an all-too common position I hear from Christian students.
Every time I do outreach with JFA I have a conversation that reminds me exactly why the work we do is so important, why I left my previous career to do this work. At the University of Texas at Dallas (UT Dallas) that conversation was with a young woman named “Miriam.”
At outreach we meet a lot of pro-choice people who are atheists or agnostics, but we also meet a lot of pro-choice people who profess to be Christians. How does somebody who has been raised in the church her whole life become pro-choice?
Miriam is a perfect example of this phenomenon. I will quote her initial response to me at length. It is a fascinating look into how people who profess to be committed Christians (in this case a “proud Catholic”) justify their support for legal abortion:
I’ve been pro-life most of my life. But I do think it should still be legal, though. I’m a proud Catholic. And as a Catholic, most of us are pro-life.
I don’t know. God gave us free will. And he told us to make our own choices and choose what we believe is right, and in the end we will get our reward. Everything will be justified in the end.
I don’t believe that I should put my religious beliefs on the entire United States. If somebody who’s not Catholic wants to get an abortion, I’m not going to judge them. If somebody who is Catholic wants to get an abortion, I’m not going to judge them. It’s not my job.
I understand it’s sad. I don’t want babies to die. I do personally believe it is murder. Especially after a few months. I think maybe a time limit would be nice. Especially after a good amount of months, you shouldn’t kill that kid. I think it’s just not our decision to make for everyone.
Our March outreach at UT Dallas where I met Miriam
I was very saddened by her response. She knew that abortion was “killing a kid” and didn’t want babies to die, yet she believed in keeping it legal to do just that.
Miriam considered herself pro-life because she personally was against abortion. Yet her position is almost identical to any pro-choice student that I meet who thinks that abortion should be legal for all reasons in the first two trimesters. This seemed to be a comfortable position for her. On the one hand, she could call herself pro-life and think she was in line with her church. On the other, most of her friends are pro-choice, and she could tell them she agrees with them about abortion.
She mentioned that her parents were pro-life without exceptions. I wanted to understand more about why she changed the position with which she had been raised, so I asked her about it. She responded:
I had my own mind after a while. I saw what my parents believed, and for a while I believed that. I see in some cases my parents were right. But eventually at some point in my life I [saw] some cases where abortion is justified. It is sad, but it would be worse for the kid if it was born. It’s hard to balance whose life weighs more, the mother or the child. It’s a judgement call, and it’s not my decision.
There it was again, the phrase “not my decision,” which echoed her previous comments about “make our own choices,” and, “I don’t believe that I should put my religious views on the entire United States.” She had uncritically accepted our culture’s message: choice trumps a child’s right to life.
Equipping Christian students, like those in the seminar shown above, is one of our main priorities at JFA.
This conversation was evidence to me of the vital role our churches and families play in developing the pro-life advocates of the next generation, and of the fact that they are often under-equipped for the task. That’s why Justice For All’s training is so important. If she had heard strong justifications for the pro-life view, she would have been much more likely to reject the views that her culture and her peers were pushing on her. If her parents knew how to have difficult conversations with her about this topic, she would probably still oppose abortion today. But those conversations are hard, especially when dealing with issues such as abortion in the case of rape, and many, if not most, parents are not equipped to have those types of conversations confidently. Teaching those skills is exactly what Justice For All is about.
“If her parents knew how to have difficult conversations with her about this topic, she would probably still oppose abortion today. But those conversations are hard...and many, if not most, parents are not equipped to have those types of conversations confidently. ”
During our conversation, I was stunned by the number of pro-choice talking points she had absorbed and regurgitated to me. Where did Miriam’s justifications for abortion come from?
I went to Catholic schools my whole life, and most of my friends there were pro-choice, which is surprising because you’d think in Catholic school it would be pro-life, but that’s not the case where I grew up. Pro-choice makes more sense for the youth than for those who are older. I guess wisdom comes with age and stuff. Maybe it’s our youth mentality about how we think we know more than those who are older.
I was very surprised that she still considered herself pro-life, even though almost everything she was saying was no different than what I would usually hear from atheistic pro-choice students. I asked her to try to make sense of that for me.
There is a gray area between the two. You can be pro-life with a little pro-choice in you. Pro-choice has their moments where they make sense to me. I don’t think I’ll ever go over totally to the pro-choice side because I believe in the right to life, and I believe everything the Catholic Church says on the subject.
I support pro-life one billion percent, and kind of like one percent I see some pro-choice arguments that have points where they make sense.
Again, I was a bit shocked to hear that someone who spouted to me dozens of pro-choice arguments also said she is “one billion percent” pro-life. How is that possible? Had she learned why her church believes abortion is wrong? Had her parents taught her how to respond to the reasons her friends were pro-choice? Almost everything she had heard on the subject seemed to have come from our pro-choice culture or her pro-choice friends.
JFA Outreach at the University of Texas at San Antonio (UTSA) in February 2020
After listening to her share her view, I presented a case for the equality of the unborn. I then asked, “Since the unborn are also human, shouldn’t they deserve an equal right to life to you and me?” She avoided the question, and she jumped once again into a common pro-choice talking point. This pattern continued throughout our conversation. It seemed clear to me that she had never considered the points I was making, and she had no responses other than repeating what she had heard from her friends.
This was discouraging, but I am hopeful that I “put a pebble in her shoe,” as Greg Koukl of Stand to Reason says. People often don’t change their minds on the spot, but my modest goal in my conversation was that something would stick, just like a pebble in her shoe.
We need to reach kids everywhere, especially kids who claim to follow Christ, before they are convinced by the culture and their peers that even if abortion is “killing a kid,” the law should let people make their own choices about it.
My conversation with Miriam confirmed for me that our culture is talking to our kids about abortion. The question is, are we? Are our Christian youth being told the reasons that the unborn should have a right to life? Are they being told how to respond to the pro-choice arguments that their friends are making?
“... our culture is talking to our kids about abortion. The question is, are we? ”
That’s exactly what Justice For All’s mission encompasses. We train Christians to defend their pro-life convictions winsomely in a culture that is hostile to it. We help them understand how this is one issue where the comfortable position of being only personally pro-life is not enough. We teach them that injustice against some of the most vulnerable members of our society is not something about which we can be indifferent. And finally, we train their parents to have these conversations with their kids, so their children develop the critical thinking to help them hold strong even when the culture pushes back.
Where will parents and kids learn this? They are most likely to learn it through their church or a program at their Christian school. The pro-choice culture does not need to communicate its message to our kids — the media and their peers will do the job for them. But as Miriam proves, we don’t have the luxury of inaction. And I am so happy that God allows me to reach so many Christian parents and kids every year through Justice For All’s work.
It’s up to churches, Christian schools, and parents not to hope that our underlying beliefs magically transfer to our kids. Rather we have to spend time focused on the topic. We need to craft a whole-person response that includes the heart and the mind. That is precisely what Justice For All trains leaders to do.
A Breakthrough at the Water Pump
Dear Friend of JFA,
Recently my family invited me to watch a more recent version of a movie I saw in grade school (The Miracle Worker, Disney, 2000). The movie tells the story of Helen Keller, a blind and deaf seven-year-old, and her teacher, Anne Sullivan. In contrast to many in Helen’s life who saw her as a hopeless cause, Anne tenaciously labored to draw out Helen’s incredible intelligence and potential.
Imagine the challenge of teaching language to someone who is blind and deaf! Anne felt at many points like she was getting nowhere. Over and over she would spell with sign language into the palm of Helen’s hand, and over and over it seemed that even though Helen imitated beautifully, she did not comprehend the meaning of the hand signs. Then one day Anne and Helen experienced a breakthrough at the water pump. In The Story of My Life, Helen described it:
Suddenly I felt a misty consciousness as of something forgotten — a thrill of returning thought; and somehow the mystery of language was revealed to me. I knew then that “w-a-t-e-r” meant the wonderful cool something that was flowing over my hand. That living word awakened my soul, gave it light, hope, joy, set it free!
We create conversations about abortion, longing for every person to experience this same moment of comprehension. While many have dismissed pro-choice advocates both within and outside our church communities as a hopeless cause, we train pro-life advocates to labor with each person, not discouraged when one approach doesn’t work. Some have called Helen’s experience a miracle. That’s apt. In the same way, while we labor with the best dialogue tools we have, we also rely on God to work a miracle in each person’s worldview. Thank you for partnering with us to help the blind and the teacher of the blind alike, that many may “come to see” the inherent value of every human being.
- Steve Wagner, Executive Director
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Stephanie Gray: Featured Resources and Conversation Starters
Stephanie Gray in conversation at a JFA outreach event at Purdue University in 2017
Over the years, JFA has highlighted several resources and conversation starters featuring our friend, Stephanie Gray. Click the link above to explore and share those posts.
Stephanie Gray is an acclaimed international pro-life speaker. In 2017 she was a presenter for “Talks at Google” speaking on abortion, and in 2019 she took part in the La Ciudad de las Ideas debate about abortion in Mexico (highlights from both events appear in our featured posts, linked above). Stephanie is also the author of Love Unleashes Life. You can learn more about Stephanie’s work at www.loveunleasheslife.com.
Responding to "I can't tell other's what to do."
In “Two Buckets,” Tammy Cook shares one concept that helps people who are reluctant to say abortion should not be legal because “I can’t tell others what to do.” Through the conversation, which Tammy shares in vivid detail, she also models a number of other important conversational tools.